I visited my sons at college this weekend. They are kids numbers three and four who fortunately go to the same university. Kid number one is out college, and number two will graduate in May, so I think I’ve finally got the method down. It’s my opinion that keeping the visit short and sweet is the way to go!
Day 1: Arrive at destination late afternoon. You’ll have time to get settled in your hotel and give your kids time to finish what they’re doing without any last minute surprises. Take your kid (or kids) to dinner at a place that is nice enough for you to enjoy, feels like a treat to them, and is not so expensive that you can’t comfortably pay the tab for them and any friends they might invite. Sharing a meal is a great way to get to know their friends, and hear what’s going on with them socially. Plus you will be showered with their appreciation for providing a meal that is far superior to what they eat in the dining hall. Go home after dinner so they can go out with their friends guilt-free. Trust me, you don’t want to hit the bars with them. Been there, done that and it’s not pretty.
Day 2: All you need is one day to get all of your “mom” stuff accomplished. Plan to fly home early evening (5:00 pm or later.) There is plenty of time to go to an early morning yoga class before they wake up, take them grocery shopping, have a nice lunch, clean their bathroom (gross but necessary,) help them change their sheets, take them to buy shoes, and visit with their roommates. You can leave in time for them to go out with their friends that night and get home with a day left for you before the work-week begins.
*Give them a hug and a kiss and be on your way! No fighting, no boredom, and everyone will be happy and grateful!
What is your college visit style? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.