Monday Motivator :: Be Kind!

Be kind to someone today!

Take a minute to be kind to someone today. It’s contagious!

Gift Guide :: Mother’s Day!

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Mother’s Day is around the corner! Show mom some love with a special gift! I like to give gifts that I know she’d love but wouldn’t buy for herself. Take it from a mom, when it comes to Mother’s Day; we love any gift from our kids. It’s truly the thought that counts!

  1. A slim flatlet to carry cash and cards on the fly.
  2. A pretty crown catchall to hold the “Queens” jewels.
  3. Let mom get a personalized outfit sent to her from Stitchfix
  4. Cute Tassel earrings to spruce up her summer outfit
  5. Gold hoops are always in style
  6. “Mother knows best” tee. Give a gift that gives back to moms in need.  100% of the proceeds from your purchase will go towards the programs that Every Mother Counts supports, which link women to critical maternal healthcare in the U.S. and around the world.
  7. Every mom can use a perfect clutch for summer
  8. Surprise her with snazzy sandals
  9. A breezy summer scent is always welcome
  10. Love these adorable planters

Mourning the Loss of a Legend :: Prince

#RIPPRINCE, midlife, Prince Dies at 57
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My heart is heavy today with the loss of a legend, Prince. His incomparable talent and music are so interwoven into American culture, that most of us midlifers have a “Prince” memory that serves as a touchstone of our youth.

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BAM 2016 Recap :: Dancing Through Midlife

 

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If you tell me there’s a dance party, I’ll be there. And dance we did! Any awkwardness I felt about attending my first blog conference was quickly dispelled by this diverse group of women who are gracefully dancing through midlife. Their confidence, competence, and courage blew me away! Above all, I was invigorated by laughing and learning with kindred spirits at BAM 2016.

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How To Find Love at Midlife

How To Find Love at Midlife

image via HBO

How does one find love at midlife? My grandmother always said, “You have to get out to go out.” In my heart, I know this is true. The man of my dreams, or any man for that matter, isn’t going to come knocking on my door while I’m sitting on the couch watching Netflix. I’m going to have to kiss a lot of frogs before I meet my prince. The problem is that I’m tired of kissing frogs! I wrote a post about this four years ago, and my status hasn’t changed. In my defense, having two kids in high school put a wrench in my social life. If I wanted to be present as a mom, along with working all day, and having some “me” time, there wasn’t much energy left for going on dates. Now that I have an empty nest, I’m out of excuses. I think (notice I said think…) that I’m ready. Here is what I know I need to do if I want to find my prince. Full disclosure: I am guilty of not following this advice!

Get real with yourself about what you want. Throw out your fantasy list of the perfect man and instead, think about the kind of relationship you want. For example, I want to feel safe and appreciated. I want to travel and enjoy physical activity with my partner. I want to be able to do my own thing with the comfort of knowing that we come together at the end of the day. I want to share in the joy (and struggles) of spending time with family.  I want to discuss things that matter to me and be challenged intellectually. I want a enjoy a healthy and fun sex life. I want to be loved unconditionally.

Have an open mind. That photo on match.com is just that, a one-dimensional image of a person. We know there is much more to us than can be gleaned from a photograph, so it’s important to keep that in mind when we are busy making assumptions about someone else. With the exception of an absolute “no” on the first date, it usually takes six dates before you can to make a decision to move forward with someone, and at least six months to know them well enough to see their “true colors.” Up until then, we are still on our best behavior, not feeling comfortable enough to reveal our true selves, warts and all.

Get out of your comfort zone. Say yes to invitations even when it’s easier to curl up on the sofa with a glass of wine and watch Scandal. Go on blind dates. Try online dating or at least, fill out your profile. Take those salsa lessons you’ve been considering. It’s not going to be easy to meet someone so special that you want to share your life with them.

Let’s be honest; it shouldn’t be!

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