Be a Peaceful Warrior

Peaceful Warrior
Peaceful Warrior Pose (Shanti Virabhadrasana): facing life’s challenges with strength, balance, and an open heart.

I woke up today feeling a heavy sadness in the wake of the horrific shootings murders of Alton Sterling, Philando Castile and the Dallas police officers who were shot while on duty protecting peaceful protesters. If you haven’t watched the shocking video that Mr.Castile’s girlfriend recorded on her phone while sitting in the car next to his wounded body (her four-year-old daughter in the back seat), you need to. The unfair treatment of black people by police is real, unacceptable, and must be stopped. All of the victims, black and white, have families who need them, love them, and will miss them.  All of their lives mattered.

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Who took my spot? Why We Always Pick the Same Seat

yoga namaste

Dammit, someone took my spot! My Sunday yoga class is my holy hour and a half where I connect with myself, God, and my special yoga friends. Every Sunday I lay out my mat in the same spot, and I am at peace, ready to work my body through a series of poses and sweat my way to balance in preparation for the week to come. But someone hijacked my spot! How dare they? Since I try to practice the Yamas and Nyamas of yoga (in this case nonviolence and noncovetousness), I feel compelled to question my strong feelings about this situation. Should I try to steal it back? Why does it bother me so much? Is the universe sending me a message that I need to move my mat? Should I surrender and let it go?  Being the therapist that I am, I decided to look into the psychology behind where we choose to sit.

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Life Happens!

Life Happens

Life happens! I repeat this mantra when I’m feeling overwhelmed and can’t get off the proverbial hamster wheel. One of the things that kept me from launching my blog was my fear of not being able to post consistently. And that is exactly what has happened over the past two weeks- I was running on the hamster wheel trying to manage work, home, and a weekend-long celebration for my daughter’s college graduation and consequently blogging fell to the bottom of my to-do list. Aaargh! But I’m back at it.

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The Gift of Rituals at Midlife

Rituals at Midlife

 

Sameness. Comfort. Meaning. Commitment. These are the cornerstones of rituals, the sacred rites we practice throughout our lives. Ebbing and flowing with time, rituals catalog our memories and breathe meaning into our life stories. It is hard to reach midlife without riding a sea of changes: in our relationships (divorce, loss, children launching), our careers, and our physical bodies. When you feel like you’re drowning, rituals are buoys to hold onto and regain balance.

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